Over the past few weeks many of us have watched with concern a snowballing campaign of vilification against Melinda Tankard Reist, her public work as an advocate for women and girls and for society as a whole. Much of this has occurred online using all manner of cyber harrassment perpetrated by trolls and pseudo-experts. Their gutless cyber threats serve only to expose their own lack of character.
Melinda has for many years campaigned against the commercialisation of childhood, the sexualisation of young people, especially girls, in the advertising and other industries and, more recently, the growing influence of pornography on the psyche of young people and society at large. Frontline clinicians, educators and professionals who work with young people are now coming to realise that these are important issues that have an impact beyond creed or caste. As we begin to comprehend the rising tide of mental illness impacting on our young people we have no choice but to examine those parts of our culture and society that are contributing to it regardless of how uncomfortable it might make us feel. Melinda has identified an important issue that is not just about one’s personal taste, values or morals but in fact about the health and wellbeing of the next generation of Australians.
It is no surprise that Melinda has hit a social nerve. She is compelling and popular not because of her personal beliefs but because there are many who immediately see the common sense logic and reasoning behind her arguments. Melinda fearlessly expresses her arguments, with presentations that are dense with research and evidence, about social trends that mainstream, average Australians have been worried about. For many, listening to or reading Melinda’s material is a turning point where they realise that there are many others who are feeling the same way about what is happening to our society as it becomes progressively more influenced by commercial interests and an increasingly sexualised culture.
Melinda is a powerful voice, and hence a threat to those commercial forces and idealogues that are driving the social trends that she criticises, because she has the ability to galvanise and unite people to stand with her against the cultural tide. It’s no surprise she has enemies, given that she and her colleagues have been so effective in making companies and advertisers more responsible about the images and ideas they use to promote their products.
That’s precisely why Generation Next chooses to work with Melinda. Generation Next educates thousands of teachers, nurses and other professionals who work with young people each year and Melinda has been an important part of our expert team that addresses large audiences all over the country. The response from the audience, more than 4,000 people last year alone, was overwhelmingly positive. The audience was not interested in Melinda’s personal philosophy or spiritual orientation because they judged her material, evidence and arguments on their merits and nevertheless emphatically agreed with her conclusions.
I have worked closely with Melinda over the last few years and have been impressed with the cogency of her messages and the authenticity with which she applies herself. I don’t necessarily agree with all her views however her work on issues that impact on the wellbeing of girls and women, such as sexualisation and pornography, stands on its own merits. There are social campaigners who engage in public debate because of their deeply sincere commitment to the benevolence of others and there are those who play in the same space for self gratification or to drive an agenda. Melinda is of the former category and many of her critics of the latter. I find it bizarre that they should label her a “secret fundamentalist Christian”. I would not label myself as a Christian, although I do believe that all the great religions warrant respect and are in fact united by a common thread of wisdom, nor am I a Feminist. In fact I don’t have time for fundamentalists or “-isms” of any orientation, yet I have seen no hint of fundamentalism in her behaviour. Melinda did tell me about her personal beliefs but it was clear to me that she was open to many ideas from other cultures and traditions. I’ve had significant opportunity to examine her substance. In my assessment she’s the real thing.
Why have they singled out Melinda for this special treatment? After all, she is not the only voice that speaks out about these issues that impact on the wellbeing of women and girls. The reason, I believe, is because she is the most prominent, convincing and unrelenting. The sincerity of her commitment is self-evident and that’s one of the reasons why she is so compelling- and so dangerous!
What’s evident to me is that her critics don’t just disagree with her views, they hate her guts. They hate her because they fear her. They’re afraid of her authenticity, her genuine commitment to the welfare of the women and girls in our society and her wish to contribute toward a better world for them. Her critics find it difficult to counter-argue at a rational level simply because their counter-arguments don’t hold up to logical scrutiny. So they have resorted to character assassination and for some reason they are currently getting away with what many believe is an out and out campaign of defamation.
Labelling Melinda as a fundamentalist does not neutralise the inherent logical power of her arguments about the impact of sexualisation and porn on our society. In fact, those critics that dismiss her work on this issue because of her purported fundamentalism, simply expose the fact that they have not examined her arguments on their merits and hence must themselves be driven by an agenda other than an interest in getting to the truth on these matters.
There are many industries, ideologies and personalities who have waited a long time to get square with Melinda and they are certainly making the most of the current opportunity. They are desperate to kill the messenger before the message gets any more traction….a bit like big tobacco tried to kill off its critics thinking that they could prevent the truth from surfacing.
We at Generation Next will be standing by her and we challenge all those who have worked with her, who know her to be real in her words and deeds to also show their support – it’s as much a litmus test of their authenticity as it is of Melinda’s determination.
We’re proud that she’s part of our 2012 speaking line up and Generation Next not only endorses her, we think she’s the kind of authentic Australian that makes our events so popular and respected. We encourage you to support her and her colleagues who work in this very difficult space for the betterment of our young people.
Melinda, you are in the process of finding out who your real friends are. It’s a painful but ultimately invaluable process. You are better off with handful of real friends than a bunch of wannabes trying to leverage their own ambitions off the back of your track record as a succesful and effective cultural warrior. You’ll soon find out that you don’t need them because you are drawing from a deeper pool of strength than your enemies can ever hope to.
I’ll end with a quote that has helped me through some tough times:
Now sharpen your blade and get back in the fight!
Dr Ramesh Manocha, Convenor, Generation Next
Dear reader, many of you will recall Melinda’s powerful and moving lectures at our events and the way in which she inspired all of us to take action against the use of sexualised images and ideas that negatively influence our young people’s mental health and wellbeing. Now it’s our turn to show our support for her work. Click on the share buttons below and share this article with as many people as possible on email, facebook, twitter, linkedin etc etc. With just a few clicks you can make a difference!
Great article! Thanks. One other thing to mention about many of MTR’s critics, is the venomous jealousy that is so overwhelming. I love her work.
What a beautiful tribute to an amazing and hard-working lady! Thank you Generation Next for your support too. I think you’ve hit the nail on the head with your point about how Melinda’s purported fundamentalism shows up the critics lack of examination of her arguments on their own merits.
Spot on, Ramesh. Shout it from the rooftops!
Wonderful words, Ramesh! I’m sure you speak for many who are inspired by Melinda’s dedication, persistence and determination to protect our kids.
It’s hard to believe that there are those who cannot see the potential and very real long-term damage inherent in what our kids are bombarded with via the media – maybe it’s based on hip pocket revenue; maybe it’s based on ignorance; and maybe they just don’t have any basis for comparison between kids ‘then’ and kids ‘now’ – I do.
I come from a teaching background – I started when perms were in and shoulder pads were high and I can tell you kids are VERY different now….and I often don’t like what I see.
There’s a bunch of reasons why…parenting, for one, has changed; but there is also an awareness, a ‘worldliness’ and a ‘toughness’ that comes from easy access to images, events, circumstances that are simply not age-appropriate.
Much of the innocence has gone and kids grow up too fast – some of this is due to parents being too busy and placing more responsibility onto their kids than they should; sometimes parents are frightened to tough it out and say ‘no’.
Whatever the reasons, Melinda is dragging us kicking and screaming into the reality of what is happening to our kids TODAY….right under our noses.
I presented as part of the Generation Next 2010 team and I have heard Melinda’s message on several occasions. I was blown away – not just by the message itself, but also by the strength of her delivery and her knowledge of the issue.
Wake up out there – don’t shoot the messenger just because the messenger tells an unpleasant truth. These are OUR kids she’s talking about!
Thanks Angie, you have summed up the situation really well. It’s a confrontation between those who want the process of cultural degeneration to continue, who argue that everything’s ok, and those whose common sense can see that the status quo is simply not a viable option for our society….
This is spot on. Thanks for this insightful piece.
Thank, Ramesh, for articulating the feelings of support that so many women and girls in Australia have for Melinda Tankard Reist. Without her work, and that of GN, the current blanket social pornification would be too much to even contemplate, let alone mobilise against. Look forward to your next conference.
Thank you Ramesh, you have articulated so well what has been in many of our thoughts over this time!
“What’s evident to me is that her critics don’t just disagree with her views, they hate her guts. They hate her because they fear her. They’re afraid of her authenticity, her genuine commitment to the welfare of the women and girls in our society and her wish to contribute toward a better world for them.”
My goodness yes, if she was in this for herself, she would have left the fight long ago! Melinda is one gutsy woman, meant for this time. It has been an honour knowing this woman of character – she is the real thing!. She genuinely cares about the world our young people are growing up in and I will continue to support her work in any way I can.
Thank you Gen Next for allowing her message to continue to be heard around the country.
Thank you Ramesh for a great piece. I have worked alongside Melinda Tankard Reist on the issue of sexualisation of children and teens for a number of years now (Including with your Generation Next Seminars). Too many people are in denial about how our kids are being impacted by the pornification and commercialisation of childhood…and Melinda has been one of the few willing to say it how it is She walks the talk and is out there every week presenting in schools to students, parents and educators and is making a huge difference in young people’s lives. There has been so much pure fiction written about her in recent weeks it is extraordinary. Whole articles printed that have been built on supposition and untruths . Shame on the publishers for not checking facts with the source first. Also very disappointing to see adults behave so badly online….aren’t we supposed to be the role models? Thank you for creating the Generation Next seminar series and thank you for supporting an excellent speaker.
Julie Gale
Thanks Julie. By the way, i’m sure our readers would love to read an article or two by you in the next newsletter!
Dr Ramesh, I have attended your events and have heard Melinda present numerous times, her message has always been clear and well researched. I can’t imagine you using any speaker who does not use accurate research. I checked some of the reports Ms Reist spoke about at the last seminar I attended and there was report after report to back her presentation.
What Ms Reist has been subjected to in recent times is terrible. We all the know the story of the wolf in sheeps clothing, well there is much truth in that. I have noticed great support from a variety of people for her work and to support her personally.
I am sure Ms Reist will appreciate your support as do we appreciate her brave fight.
Thank You for the work you and your team do Dr Ramesh, I am looking forward to attending future events.
Thanks Ramesh, for a fabulously well written article, not just one in support of Melinda but recognising the disturbing way so called grown ups have responded to her and the issues she raises. How sad that people are not willing to enter the debate on an adult level but can only lash out in hatred. Thanks too for the reminder to speak up in support of Melinda and the crucial perspectives she brings. If we stand by and let her be treated in this way without saying its unacceptable, the loudest and most vicious voices are the ones heard. Thanks for being a voice of reason, integrity and wisdom.
I find it unlikely that the backlash against Melinda is by people “who want the process of cultural degeneration to continue”. Who would want that? They either don’t believe there is cultural degeneration (they need to sneak a look at teenagers’ Facebook sites) or perhaps they have difficulty putting aside their feelings about Melinda’s personal beliefs on other issues that clash with their own ideology. And I think not many of them have teenage girls.
Hi Rachel
You are right. what i meant was that those who are happy with the status quo are, consciously or unconsciously, supporting the process of cultural degradation that social trends such as sexualisation both represents and contributes to. Edmund Burke is credited with the saying “All that is necessary for the forces of evil to succeed is for enough good men to do nothing”