How To Raise Children Who Are Not Spoiled Brats

>>How To Raise Children Who Are Not Spoiled Brats

How To Raise Children Who Are Not Spoiled Brats

No one wants to have – or to be around – demanding, selfish, spoiled children; those who throw tantrums or sulk when they’re not given everything they want immediately.

Paradoxically, the parents of such children encourage this demanding behaviour in the mistaken belief that if they give their children everything they can, their children will be happy.

Perhaps in the very short term, they’re right. In the longer term, however, such children end up lonely, dependent, chronically dissatisfied and resentful of the parents who tried so hard to please them.

How can parents raise happy children; individuals who are self-confident, capable and likeable rather than spoiled and miserable?

Some suggestions:

1. Rather than giving them material possessions, give them the most valuable gift of all – your loving attention. The quantity of time that you spend together is less important than the content of that time.

2. Instead of instantly gratifying their wishes, help them work out a plan to earn things they’d like to have. This teaches them to value their effort as well as what it achieves.

3. Allow them to enjoy anticipation. Children who learn to wait for things they desire are more likely to succeed in a number of ways later in life, as Walter Mischel, the psychologist who created “the Marshmallow Test”, showed.

– Linda Blair

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By |2018-04-13T11:47:36+00:00April 12th, 2018|Categories: Society & Culture|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

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