The truth is most of our kids are going to be, in the great scheme of things, ordinary. And that’s perfectly all right. Not everyone can be top of the heap, a star or ‘special’ – at least not all the time. To play being a princess or superhero is fine, but believing you should be treated like one in every day life and all the time is conceited and downright impractical. You won’t get very far in life demanding respect – like everything else, it has to be earned.
By focusing on the individual and what makes us ‘special’, we create an ‘us’ and ‘them’ mentality. Instead of looking for what makes us the same, ideologically, morally and ethically we search for that which distinguishes us as different. We exaggerate the little things (often superficial or external only) to make them count and miss that which we can delight in sharing – with each other and our children.
And in doing so we forget that without ‘we’ there’s no community.
Excerpt from Consuming Innocence: Popular Culture and Our Children by Karen Brooks. Editor Dr Ramesh Manocha.