Frayed emotions? A new book argues "distress tolerance" is what sets sucessful people apart. Photo: Canberra Times

Frayed emotions? A new book argues “distress tolerance” is what sets successful people apart. Photo: Canberra Times

I live by a motto that what doesn’t kill you hardens you, turning you brittle and bitter or breaks you open, softening you and creating resilience and strength.

Interestingly, this idea of having emotional space to weather the storms of psychological discomfort is an important quality across many aspects of life.

In fact, according to a new book, distress tolerance is what sets apart those who find success in resolving marital conflict, business negotiation, good parenting and even elite military training.

Sarah Berry

via Power of Negative Emotion: psychologists believe bad feelings produce success by Sarah Berry