Melinda Hutchings, Eating Disorders expert, author of Why Can’t I Look the Way I Want? Overcoming Eating Issues, and Generation Next speaker has practical advice and help for people who suspect they know a young person with eating issues.

She says “by recognising the early warning signs and stopping an eating issue in its tracks, there is every opportunity of reversing the mindset before it spirals into an eating disorder”.

It is important to engage them constructively, rather than to try and ‘catch them out’ or quiz them about what they are eating.

Helpful comments:

  • I’m here even if I don’t understand
  • Let’s tackle this together – now what can I do to help you?
  • I’m worried about you. I think you have so much potential and I’m here to help you find a way through this

Handling hostility or aggression:

  • This is a reflection of their internal conflict and struggle
  • Let them say what they need to say without interrupting
  • It you can create a space for the person to express themselves this will promote an open communication channel so that they will come to you when they are ready.

Denial:

  • The safest option is for the person to tell you that they don’t have a problem
  • They might resent your uninvited intrusion into their lives and would rather you devoted your energies to people who want your help
  • Underneath there is pain, struggle and confusion

Strategies:

  • Don’t make assumptions about how the person is thinking or feeling, or pretend to understand their pain
  • Listen effectively and compassionately without judgement as this promotes trust
  • Let them know they can come to you anytime if they are feeling confused or upset and you will listen without judgement

How can Schools help?

  • Educate teachers and counsellors about the warning signs
  • Educate students about the dangers of dieting
  • Educate students about positive body image and positive self image
  • Encourage discussion about the positive aspects of student role models as this is what they will aspire to

Melinda concludes “It is a fact that low self esteem and going on a diet can lead to an eating disorder”.

Writer Helen Splarn. Editor Dr Ramesh Manocha
Source: Melinda Hutchings, Eating Disorders Expert