Of late, more and more schools are asking me to work with their students as well as their staff.
My most popular workshop at the moment is Learning to Bounce where we explore resilience.
Resilience is generally accepted to mean the ability to bounce back after adversity.
However, inspired by the words of Dr Sue Roffey a couple of years back, I’ve been fascinated by the notion that resilience is also the ability to bounce forward.
Specifically, Dr Roffey talks of Post Traumatic Growth as opposed to the more commonly thought of, Post Traumatic Stress.
When I’m working with staff and students, we explore how being resilient also gives us the confidence to push ourselves out of our comfort zone. To take opportunities we might otherwise pass up if we feared failure. This is another example of how resilient people bounce forward.
One of the things we can all do to enhance our resilience (like any ability, we can develop it) is to look out for ANTs, or Automatic Negative Thoughts.
Everyone experiences these thoughts from time-to-time, and how we deal with them can have a huge impact on our lives.
See which of these four ANTs you can recognize in yourself.
Catastrophising – It’s a disaster! It’s completely ruined.
Overgeneralising – Everyone else is going, No-one likes me
Filtering – When someone asks you how your day was, you forget the three positive things that happened and focus on the one negative.
Mind-reading – They said they liked it, but they were just being polite.
There are many more, and sometimes it’s easier to spot ANTs in others before you see them in yourself.
If you do see an ANT… try to get rid of it!
Challenge your thinking.
Have you got all the facts? Can you look at it from the other person’s point of view? Is ruminating on the issue doing you any good at all? Can you accept or solve the situation?
It’s not easy. It takes practice. But just for the next week, try some ANT spotting. Because sometimes just identifying them can change the way you look at a situation.
And if you can do that, you’ve taken the first step to strengthening your resilience and being able to bounce forward.
Author: Dan Haesler, he is a teacher, consultant, and speaker at the Mental Health & Wellbeing of Young People seminars He writes for the Sydney Morning Herald and blogs at http://danhaesler.com/ and tweets at @danhaesler
This is such great, simple advice to use in working with young people.. I’m gonna make a poster of a negative ant to create discussion in groups etc as well as for 1:1 work! Thanks.
It’s also great to see (def. going to research Dr. Sue Roffey!) a strengths based approach to dealing with trauma – re-framing from ‘just’ a disorder, to an opportunity.. Post Traumatic Growth is a phrase I will never forget 🙂
Hi, Great concept…I love it. Can you recommend any books that would appeal to an 11yo boy that explore and reinforce the ANT concept? My son would really benefit from being able to identify the ANTs he comes up with.
Thanks,
Emily
Though we often create ANTs for ourselves, our media-drenched lives also ensures that we are confronted daily by the catastrophising and over-generalising of journalists. There are many of us who do not know how to filter out this catastrophising and over-generalising in newsreporting etc. Teaching critical thinking in schools so that children can themselves filter this out of their lives is vital.